Meet your therapist.
Dr. Kayla Sykes
California Licensed Clinical Psychologist
PSY32408
- Exhausted from overgiving in your relationship but don't know how to stop
- Keeping score silently and resenting your partner for not noticing
- Feeling like your partner's mother instead of their equal
- Wanting a relationship but avoiding dating because vulnerability feels terrifying
- Convinced something is wrong with you for struggling with closeness
- Unable to ask for what you need without feeling selfish or demanding
- Analyzing every text, every tone, every interaction with your partner or friends
- Giving more than you receive and wondering why no one takes care of you
- Afraid that if you set boundaries, people will leave
- Craving connection but keeping everyone at arm's length
- Losing yourself in relationships or avoiding them altogether
- Struggling to tell the difference between your intuition and your anxiety
We may be a good fit if you're:
Specialties.
Relationship Anxiety
People-Pleasing & Boundaries
Anxious Attachment
Fear of Vulnerability
Over-Functioning in Relationships
Dating Anxiety
Father Wounds & Partner Selection
Women's Issues Across Life Stages
Works With.
Individuals
Couples
Women (20s-40s)
Perinatal and Postpartum Women
My Passion.
Background & Education.
Alliant International University, San Francisco, CA
PsyD in Clinical Psychology
University of California, Davis
B.A. in Psychology & Communication
University of San Francisco, CAPS
Postdoctoral Fellowship & Predoctral Internship
Women’s Health Across the Lifespan
National Health Register, Specialized Training
I became a therapist because I kept seeing a pattern: the women who seemed to have it most together were often quietly struggling. The ones taking care of everyone else but didn't know how to ask for what they needed. What drew me to this specialty was seeing how many capable women needed help themselves.
Here's what I've learned: for women, relationships aren't just one part of life—they shape everything. When our relationships feel solid, we can handle stress, take risks, and show up fully. When they don't, everything else feels harder.
Many women don't feel okay unless their relationships are okay. And while that speaks to how deeply we value connection, it can also go too far. When your sense of worth becomes controlled by whether your partner noticed what you did, whether they texted back, whether they seem happy—you lose trust in yourself. You stop being able to tell the difference between your intuition and your anxiety.
My work is helping women rebuild trust in themselves. To discern between anxiety that's protecting you from something real and anxiety that's just protecting you from being vulnerable. To ask for what you need without feeling selfish. To stop keeping score and start showing up authentically.
Therapy with me is a real conversation. I'm warm and I care deeply, but I'm also honest. If I notice something, I'll name it. I bring humor when it fits and directness when it helps. And I won't let you people-please your way through our sessions.
"The hardest part isn't learning to set boundaries.
It's believing you're allowed to have them in the first place.
You don't have to keep earning love.
You already deserve it."
— Dr. Kayla Sykes